What Your Fantasies Say About Your Personality

In our country, the concept of physical intimacy and intercourse has been a taboo to speak about for over years. However, that has no barrier for imagination and research. Over time, with visual images, combined with knowledge and understanding, and sometimes, experiences, we may build fantasies of how we want our special experience to be. The fantasies remain a secret in our head or maybe, shared with our special other. While this may seem like a matter that influences your stance in bed (or elsewhere), who knew that it has the potential to tell you what your personality is like?

It is weird but true. Long-held fantasies, no matter who, where or with what you are imagining, may have an influence on your personality. Or rather, your personality may have an influence on the former. Whether your fantasies are a matter of emotional contentment or physical adventure, what turns you on and how you feel about it makes you unique. And, that may be classified into the Big Five personalities. These are Extroversial, Agreeable, Conscientious, Neurotic and Open to experience.

Woah! Really?

Now would be a good time to cut to the chase. Here are a few ways of how your romantic and wild fantasies may be the key to your personality. Read on.

Extroversion

Extroversion

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This type of people are naturally effluent and gather all their energy from being around people, and experimenting with new activities. In other words, the more the merrier. When it comes to physical relationships and intimacy, this can be ample socially, as well.

So, extroverted people may fantasize about non-monogamy acts in various forms that may seem like fun. However, on the flip side, introverts may have a higher probability to have such taboo-based fantasies. This could possibly arise from their inability to establish the different types of relationships that they desire. This, in turn, could increase their tendency to develop “forbidden” and uncommon interests.

Agreeableness

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These folks can be the absolute givers in bed. They may naturally tend to have a higher level of empathy, care and concern for those around them, and these qualities come to play right in the bedroom as well.

That being said, if you are an “agreeable” person, chances are bright that you will do whatever it takes to make your partner feel satisfied. “Safe” and “consensual” are two things you live by. And, of course, your whole idea is to ensure mutual pleasure and fun. That does not mean you will not have fantasies. But, your kind of fantasy will involve more emotional content and lesser taboo-based acts.

Conscientious

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“God is in the details.” This is your mantra if you are of the conscientious personality. And, hence this may reflect in your “bed-time” activities too. You take it a little too far and schedule your shakalaka boom-boom, and that may indulge in plain lovemaking.

If you are a conscientious person, chances are bright that you may bring this quality into the fantasy world too. With the details about the setting, you are likely to stick to your standards and are less likely to plan something, shall we call it, out of the bed.

However, being a part of plain lovemaking does not imply that it is bad. Studies have proven that men and women whose conscientiousness index is higher, tend to have a more satisfying and intimate relationship than others (1). So, yes, there is nothing wrong in sending your significant other a calendar request. Once the RSVP is done, you know what to look forward to.

Neurotic

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This type of people have been known to hone the infamous quality of bringing an unrequited amount of stress into personal life. Therefore, if you are the type that finds peace, solace and emotional triumph only when with people they feel romantic with, then you are probably neurotic. Also, you are a lot unlikely to look out for adventure in your lovemaking, simply because stress from an unfamiliar situations are likely to make you feel uncomfortable and anxious.

Wait. That does not make you boring. It means you are more likely to bring in more passion and romance into your lovemaking. That allows both you and your partner to feel ease and comfort in the process.

Openness to experience

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Well, the name says it all. If there was a special honorable mention for those to try new, weird and crazy positions, these people will steal the crown. If you are one of these, you may have a higher tendency to experiment. This could be primarily owing to your curiosity and imagination. This can give rise to a wide and diversified variety of fantasies and that is surely going to be far, far from the traditional stuff. Life or bed—do the new is you.

Whatever type you are, as long as the relationship in bed is consensual and is fun, there is no good or bad way. It is lovemaking, and as the name suggests, it is all about love. So, did you figure your personality type? We’d love to hear from you.