The demands of the family can be overwhelming: you have your spouse to look after and share your time and affection with, and you probably have children who are depending on your availability, care, and support for their positive growth and development.
The failure to plan family life as we plan for our work, career, and social activities can be a reason why families fall apart. Specific family goals can help avoid this.
Highlighted below are insights on how you can set your family goals. They are placed alongside some examples of goals that can bring about harmony in your family life.
There are different ways that one can look at family goals. One way is that they represent the desires you plan to achieve for your family. However, another opinion sees family goals as “any goal that inherently involves another member of your family in order to accomplish it.”((Achieving Family Goals: Family Goals Examples))
Looking at it this way, it becomes clear that you can’t achieve your family goals without the cooperation of your family members. For example, setting a goal to maintain peace within your family requires the cooperation of your partner (and perhaps your children) to accomplish.
Whatever comes out of your family is the product of your decisions and that of your spouse or partner.
While you can experience some level of success as an individual, your success becomes more meaningful when your family is able to feel your impact. As a spouse or parent, you have to take responsibility to ensure that your family is headed in the right direction, which is why it is important to set family goals.
A happy family doesn’t just happen by luck or by chance; it is a product of both good intentions and sometimes hard decisions to make your family successful. Setting goals towards making those decisions is an important step you should take for your family.
Setting goals for your family shouldn’t be a difficult task. Here are some things to consider to make setting your family goals easy and fun.
Every family is unique, so you have to decide with your spouse what you want for your family. Think about how you want your family to look every day, or what you would like to achieve in a month, a year, or in 3, 5 or 10 years.
There are good examples of some families that you might like to emulate. Look around you. What have you observed that you think are desirable virtues you can imbibe in your family? Write them down and check if you can work out similar things for your family.
Have you seen anything around you that you perceive as threats to families? It is time to set your own goals to make sure that you don’t experience them. For example, getting home late perpetually can strain the relationship between a husband and wife. If you notice this trend, you might want to set a goal to return home daily at a scheduled time that can be considered early enough.
Most problems in families persist because both husband and wife (and possibly children, too) have not sat to have a decent conversation about them. When you talk about the challenges and also discuss the possible solutions, then you can come up with family goals that will address those problems.
Keeping your family strong, healthy, and happy should be top priorities in your goal setting. The following are identified as characteristics of strong families: effective communication, affective involvement, encouragement, appreciation, commitment to family, social connectedness, ability to adapt, clear roles, time together, etc.((ASPE: Identifying Successful Families: An Overview of Constructs and Selected Measures)) Think about how you can develop these attributes in your family and set goals towards them.
Ready to set your family goals? Find some examples below to guide and inspire you.
One of the causes of conflict in the home is the lack of respect for one another. Mutual respect is described as “speaking to one another in a respectful and considerate fashion, keeping your partner in mind when making decisions, and responding to your partner’s needs and wants.”((Fatherly: What Does Mutual Respect Look Like In Marriage?))
Raising responsible children doesn’t just happen by chance. Parents with grown-up children know this. You have the chance the plan how responsible, productive, and happy you want your children to be.
If you follow a religion, religious devotion can play a key role in marriages. On one side, it can help you to maintain spiritual and moral uprightness; on another, it helps you belong to a community of people where your family can also get external support and encouragement.
There is a cliché that says money is the sugar in the tea of marriage. While that can be a subject of debate, the truth is that a lack of sufficient funds in the family can create stress and tension. Therefore, setting a goal to generate adequate funding for your family needs is a goal worth pursuing.
You have to create a long term financial plan for your family. This includes considering saving plans, investment plans, child education plans, etc.
You can’t avoid conflicts or misunderstandings in the family, but you can determine to deal with them decisively and maturely. Setting a workable pattern for conflict resolution is a goal you should consider.
The primary purpose of marriage is companionship, and one of the ways to maximize this is to live a long time together. Plan the things under your own control to live long together, such as reducing stress, living happily, eating healthy, and exercising.
Encourage open and productive communication in your family. If possible, have a day each week for “tell it all” where each family member will communicate their desires, pains, and opinion about happenings in the family and the direction the family is headed.
Visions, missions, and core values are not only good for individuals or corporate organizations, but they are also applicable to the family as well. Have some values and mission distinctive to the family and something you are all working towards together.
Most people already have this as a wish, but you have to be more intentional about learning and implementing secrets to creating a work/life balance. Your family needs it most.
You can make it your goal to support your family members with funds to attain the highest level of education possible. This will take thinking outside the box to generate sufficient income.
You can plan to create wealth in your family by starting a family business, a legacy you can pass on to your children.
Each member of your family needs their own separate time with you. Whether you are a dad or mom, have it as a goal to spend one-one time with your spouse and each of your kids weekly or twice a month. Doing this will help you to get closer to them and understand their worries and needs.
One of the ways to create a happy family is by taking your family on special holidays and getaways. People can get bored in their immediate environment and might need a fresh atmosphere to unwind. You can plan this twice a year or once a year depending on your budget.
Deliberately inject some ecstasy in your home by planning some surprise date nights with your spouse.
Make your family a fit family. Have some fun with your family members by creating time to exercise together, either indoors or outdoors.
Another way to encourage the unity of mind and purpose in your family is by creating a “to-do” list. For example, make a collection of books to read or movies to see and create time to discuss them later.
Build a legacy in your family by creating a charity or foundation that caters to people with special needs. If you don’t have the time and resources to start one, you can make a commitment to provide regular support to a charity of your choice.
Keep in mind that when setting your family goals, your ultimate objectives will be to build a strong, healthy, and happy family. Being strong means that your family is bonded firmly together and that every member feels important and connected to the family.
Being healthy means there is mutual love and respect, and everyone is in sound in mind, body, and soul.
Being happy means there are few dull moments in your home; you are all having fun and everyone feels satisfied to be part of the family.