7 Expectations That You Shouldn’t Have Going Into A Marriage

Stepping into the world of marriage is one of the crucial decisions that you will have to take in your lifetime. And when you get into marriage with the love of your life, it is very natural for you to have certain expectations from your partner as a husband. And let us tell you that having expectations in your marriage is healthy; this is because it accounts for a sense of accountability in the wedded life. However, it is vital for you to keep healthy expectations and be honest and clear about its importance to you. Expectations need to be reasonable; otherwise, they would break apart your marriage.

Always understand dear women, that your husband too is as human as you. He’s no superman to fix everything. If he’s trying hard to be that perfect husband that you want him to be, the efforts are more than the word ‘perfect’ and he loves you! Now, if you’re a newbie wife and you aren’t sure about the kind of expectations you could weave in your marriage, here’s a list of some expectations that you shouldn’t be having. Continue to read on till the end.

1. Making Your Husband Choose Between You And His Mother

Making Your Husband Choose Between You And His Mother

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Whatever your issue is with your mother-in-law, you need to resolve it on your own. You shouldn’t be asking your husband to solve it for you and take your side while solving the issue. Remember that the reason he is your husband is because of your mother-in-law. Because she gave birth to him, she raised him and looked after him all these years. She’s been a part of every happiness and sorrow of his. However, if she’s being a mean woman, then you could talk to your husband in private and ask for help. Don’t ask him to choose sides.

2. You Expect Your Husband To Be Your Girl Friend

You Expect Your Husband To Be Your Girl Friend

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You have your 3 am friends whom you can call and talk about anything and everything under the stars. You gossip about each other’s lives and talk about girly things. Now, if you’re wanting to turn your husband into doing all this with you, understand that not all men are okay with it. Most of the men like to stay away and not discuss girl things. And if your husband agrees with you, then give him some time to get used to all the gossiping.

3. You Expect Your Husband To Not Look At Any Other Woman

You Expect Your Husband To Not Look At Any Other Woman

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Your husband is a human. He has eyes and has an independent brain of his own. And it’s natural if he finds another woman attractive. Because duh-uh! You cannot possibly be the only attractive woman on earth, okay? However, if he starts developing feelings or interests for another woman, that is bad and you should stop him!

4. You Expect Your Husband To Give Up His Passions

You Expect Your Husband To Give Up His Passions

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It’s a blessing in disguise to feel passionate about doing something in life. Doing what you love makes you feel peaceful and happy too. And if your husband has a passion, then as his wife, it’s your duty to help him nurture it even more. You should never put an end to it and ask him to unfollow his passion. This could break his heart and land him in depression.

5. You Expect Your Husband To Be Someone Else

You Expect Your Husband To Be Someone Else

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You loved him for who he was. You have married him for who he is. So, how can you suddenly ask him to stop being himself? We understand that you have certain expectations from him as a husband. But that doesn’t mean he needs to let go of his identity. If your expectations are that, then they are definitely unreasonable.

6. You Expect Your Husband To Ditch His Friends

You Expect Your Husband To Ditch His Friends

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You have your circle of friends, right? Even after your wedding, you need to maintain having and making your own set of friends. The same applies to your husband as well. He being with you all the time is not possible. In fact, you must never stop him from chilling with his friends. And it’s natural for you to not feel comfortable with all of his friends either. You don’t have to like all of his friends. At the same time don’t stop him from meeting them. Let him meet his friends and you meet yours.

7. You Expect Your Husband To Be Interested In Everything You Do

You Expect Your Husband To Be Interested In Everything You Do

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You both are two different individuals. While being able to develop common interests sure is a blessing, if it isn’t the case then don’t force your partner to follow your interests with the same passion that you hold. Let him do what he loves and you do what you love. Maybe you could let him cheer you and boost your confidence regarding your interest.

Reasonable expectations will make a relationship healthy, else it’s going to turn your relationship into a toxic one. What are your thoughts on this? Let us know in the comments below.

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