Behind Every No Of Our Mothers, There Is A Reason

Mom — this very word rings in all kinds of emotions in our hearts, doesn’t it? We all regard our moms to be the strongest of all humans out there. She’s the bonding film in the family. She’s also the foundation that plays a part in how we perceive life to be. But I had a very otherwise opinion about my mom. I still think that I’ve had the strictest mom in the entire world. I’m sure all of us at some point of time in our lives must have felt the same about our mothers too, right?

I remember how she used to say a blunt no every time I wanted to do a sleepover and even if she allowed me to go visit my friend’s place (girl-friend only) after school, she always wanted me to get back home by 10:00 p.m.

And trust me, every time she uttered “no,” I’d say this in my head, “I can’t wait to become an adult and do what you stop me from doing. And I’m going to let my kids do everything they want. I’ll never be a mom like you.”
Now, when I’m in my early adulthood and assume that I’ve already lived half of my life and seen half of the world, I realize that mom was always right. Every “no” she uttered had her love, her care, and a reason entwined with it.

So here’s my understanding of why there was a reason behind every “no” that my mother uttered and stopped me from doing things in my life.

She Didn’t Want Me To Quit On Anything

She Didn't Want Me To Quit On Anything

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I remember watching my friends learn instruments, and I begged and asked my mom to let me join one of the music classes that was teaching kids my age to play instruments. At first, she said a “no” although my consistent insistence made her permit me. But she put a condition that I cannot quit the class until I was done with my high school. At first, I wondered why she put that condition in front. After two months I realized that she said so, because she knew that once the novelty from my head would wear off, I might whine and quit the class. But the condition that she put forth made me attend the class no matter what. Slowly with time, I developed my passion for music. And now, in my life, music plays a very important role. It keeps me alive, it calms me down when I feel chaotic, I work better when music is being played in the background. And I still perform once in a while at selected gigs.

She Helped Me Be The Kid I Had To Be

She Helped Me Be The Kid I Had To Be

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In middle school, when most of my friends had boyfriends and used to walk hand in hand whenever we went to the park to play, I always wished I could do that! But my mom had clearly warned me that I cannot have a boyfriend until I started college. She said no dating, no holding hands, no kissing! Now, when I see other kids in their mid schooling years, I realized what she meant at that time. She just wanted me, her beloved kid to be a kid when I was supposed to be one. She wanted me to enjoy the innocence of being a kid and not get into relationships which are meant for the older generation because she knew that a relationship is not an easy thing to handle. It’s a whole lot of emotions that a kid cannot handle. I got to love my childhood in sheer innocence and enjoy every bit of it thanks to my mom.

She Taught Me What Work Hard Leads To

She Taught Me What Work Hard Leads To

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When all my friends were being gifted a car for their Birthdays when I was a teen, my mom made me work for it. She said she doesn’t have enough money to buy one for me. Although I knew for a fact that she did have the money to buy it because we were one of the most well-off families in town. I worked as an assistant to one of my professors in college and on weekends I would tutor school kids. I was asked to save all of that. And after two years, my mom took me to a car showroom and helped me buy a car. Trust me, I cannot express the happiness I felt as I had bought it with my own money. Working hard gives you unexpected gifts and satisfaction that no one else could ever give even if they’d gift the most luxurious things to you.

I always tell my mom that her firm rules are what made me what I am today

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I always tell my mom that her firm rules are what made me what I am today. And when people say I’m a nice person, I always give credit to my mother. Mom, I can never be able to thank you enough for all the lessons you’ve taught me by saying a”no” to everything I asked for in life. I love you (hearts) (infinity).

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