Wouldn’t you agree with this observation, that it’s one thing to spend some time with your partner as a couple while you’re dating, and it’s an entirely different thing to do the same, once you’re married to each other? It’s true isn’t it, after marriage, both of you become responsible for each other, and your requirements as a couple change drastically too — the house bills, the groceries, the medicines, the clothes shopping, the dinner dates, etc. (the list gets longer after having a baby for sure). And these responsibilities take up a lot of your “couple time”.
Men still find a way to woo their wives and make sure she’s feeling special even after getting married. But, what about men, dear ladies? The popular belief always has been that it’s only the women who love hearing nice things about themselves; they love being appreciated for all the hard work they put in, etc. What we fail to understand is that men are human too, and they too love, and look forward to being showered with love. And to all the women who are reading this article, — ladies, if you want to make your marriage a harmonious one, you need to motivate your husband with a few kind words. Here are a few things which can have a powerful impact on your husband when said by you, take a look:
1. “I Respect You And Your Opinions”
Can you recollect the last time you showed your hubby how much you value him? Even a simple compliment about his beard could be just the thing he needs to start the day on a happy note! One thing is certain, affirmations help strengthen a marriage.
Husbands crave to feel respected and held in high regard by their wifeys. They might not show it, but they definitely do love it. So, let your husband know how important he is to your family and you.
2. “I Believe In You”
Often times, it’s the men who are more burdened with the responsibilities of the family than the women. Which is why if things don’t work out the way they want them to, they can get affected by it, even if it’s the smallest of the setbacks. In such a situation, we suggest you let your man know that you still believe in him.
This is like a secret weapon which will make him feel empowered again. It’s an instant boost for his confidence.
3. “I Adore You And I Appreciate Everything You Do For Us”
No one’s perfect — you know this, then why don’t you practice it too? So often, women tend to focus only on the slip-ups, and this can negatively affect the willpower of their husbands. It’s important to keep their spirits up by reinforcing the positivity. Admire him for the little things he does, make a big deal out of them until his cheeks turn pink from blushing!Tell him how much you adore him.
4. “You Make Me Smile”
You must have used this line on each other while dating; so, what happened now, after marriage? There’s no rule that says that you can no longer use this line. Men always feel accomplished when they succeed in making their partners happy. As wives, it’s your duty to acknowledge their efforts to do the same. Tell your men that they are still the reason behind that smile of yours which leaves behind a pink tint on your cheek.
5. “How Are You Feeling?”
It’s so weird that we don’t ask the person sleeping next to us how he feels at home. We take it for granted that if they are behaving normally, they’re doing absolutely fine. We seldom realize that they might not be telling us about their problems because they don’t want to trouble us.
So, make it a habit to look into your husband’s eyes and ask him if he’s doing okay. Or simply ask, “How are you feeling today, honey?” If there is an underlying problem, we’re sure he’ll at least open up a bit about it.
6. “I’m Glad I Chose You. I’m Happy Being Married To You”
Being glad about the fact that you’re his wife would mean the world to him. It’s quite possible that if it’s a new marriage, the husband is constantly doubting himself or wondering if he is doing a good job. Saying the above lines might just boost his confidence and he’ll probably be more motivated to make sure you are happier than before.
7. “Let’s Go On A Date Tonight!”
Who said only men have to do this? Even the wives can take their husbands out on a date. Take him to watch his favorite action movie, followed by a nice candlelight dinner or just take him on a surprise drive. Make him feel that he has a loving and caring wife. Make him feel he just couldn’t get luckier than this (winks).
When it comes to maintaining peace and harmony in a marriage, it works only if the efforts are mutual. Whatever you say or try doing for each other in the little time that you get with each other — all of it matters. So, all you beautiful wives out there, tell us if this made your husbands feel special. Let us know in the comments below.
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