No matter how close you were to your boyfriend or girlfriend when you were dating, you certainly couldn’t have experienced the familiarity that one experiences with their spouse. When you marry someone and finally share a house and a life with them, you get to know them a lot more intimately.
Living with your husband fosters the need to work as a team together to be able to run the house in a sane manner. It also makes you closely observe the entire gamut of emotions and feelings another person experiences, something you might not have been aware of earlier. Yes, I am talking about the rollercoaster of emotions that every woman hops on, once a month, courtesy her Aunt Flo! Periods! We are talking about periods!
Even though most men are aware of this biological reality of women, they still tend to be quite uninformed about its repercussions on women. And this becomes a problem when they fail to empathize with the pain and discomfort of their wives. To remedy this, we have created a short primer of sorts for all husbands, covering ten things they should never say to their wives when their Aunt Flo is in town! Here it is:
1. “How Do You Survive After Losing That Much Blood?”
First off, let’s make it clear. It’s not that much blood. On an average, a woman loses anywhere between 6 to 8 teaspoons of blood (if they are not suffering from a disorder such as fibroids) (1). And secondly, women are survivors and warriors, that’s how. In this time of this distress, you should be doing everything to make her life easy, and not bombarding her with these inane questions. So, strike this question of your must-say list!
2. “Hey, At Least This Means You Are Not Pregnant! So In A Way, It’s Good News, Right?
Really? She is sitting in front of you clutching her stomach in pain as her uterus is punishing her for not having a baby, and you are thinking of the silver linings? It’s great that you are a “glass is half full” kinda guy, but it might not be in your best interest to showcase that attitude just now.
3. “Does It Hurt A Lot?”
No, she just likes making that face *cue sarcasm*. We get that you are tiptoeing around because you are trying your best to be sensitive to her situation but asking questions like this is really not going to work in your favor. Her entire uterine lining is falling apart, of course, it’s going to hurt like hell!
4. “Didn’t You Just Have It A Few Days Ago?”
Umm, first of all, what? How would you remember it better than her, the actual person who has to face that situation every month? Secondly, it’s a monthly deal, so you see, it repeats itself after every three weeks. We understand how that can be confusing.
5. “That Explains The Last Few Days”
Sir, you do not want to say those words to a menstruating woman, just as you don’t want to tell a pregnant woman that she looks huge. We agree that the extreme changes in the levels of hormones might be making her reactions a little extreme but throwing that fact around is only going to rub her the wrong way. What would help instead would be a more empathetic attitude and patience. Trust us, your wife will notice it, and thank you for it too!
6. “Are You Really Going To Eat All That Junk?”
Just let her be. After all, a little emotional eating never killed anyone, did it? She is obviously very uncomfortable, and if eating a few chocolates or gorging on that cheesy burger takes her mind off that fact for a few minutes, what’s the harm? If you think that she might have been overindulging in junk during her periods, keep that opinion to yourself, at least until her period lasts. If you are really concerned, you can discuss it later.
7. “Let’s Go For A Walk, The Exercise Will Make You Feel Better”
The theory behind exercises releasing endorphins is true, but this is not the best example of its application. If your wife wants to just lie on the bed and work her way through the heavy bleeding and cramps, then let her do that. If she is clearly uncomfortable, exercise will do her more harm than good.
8. “I Guess, I Will Talk To You Later Then”
Don’t say that! It’s not as if she has magically transformed into some sort of a monster that you should avoid her for the duration of her period. Instead, help her with the chores, provide a few extra cuddles and snuggles. Be attentive to her needs. And she would be grateful for it.
We hope this short list served as an eye opener for you. Just remember, it’s a very inconvenient and uncomfortable experience for your wife, and she would really appreciate all the support and help she can get.
Tell us how you helped your wife get through a particularly painful period. Share your experiences with us in the comments section.
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